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Feb 12

Is It Work If You Don’t Get Paid?

I shrug off my blog writing when it comes up in conversation.  I use air quotes when I say I have to do “work” and I’m referring to something that needs to get done for a post.  I shy away from even telling people I have a blog because I see them desperately trying to hold back an eye roll when I do.  Yet, I spend a lot of time writing, reading, thinking of new ideas, making videos – and for what?  There’s no paycheck (as my husband is quick to point out!) and yes I’ve gotten a lot of free things – from workout gear to deodorant – but why am I so uncomfortable talking about how much work I put into it?  Would I do the same if I was making money from it?

Is It Work?

I’m also a SAHM (stay at home mom).  I could start ranting about how it’s the hardest job in the world and there’s not enough money in the universe to pay me what I deserve for all that I do but, we’ve all heard that one before.  Is being a SAHM held in any kind of high regard?  I think not.  Most of the time it’s the “wow, you don’t have to go to work all day?” variety and some think it’s a cakewalk or at least better then a full-time job.  Is it rewarding?  Absolutely.  Am I glad I can be with my kids all.day.long?  Sometimes.  How about those working moms?  I used to be one.  Ever heard of mom guilt? I assure you they have.

I also have a paying job teaching fitness classes three times a week.  I use the word “paying” very lightly since I get an average of $22 per class. That’s right.  Twenty-two dollars buys me a quarter tank of gas so, I’m not in it for the money.  And, if I’m not there because the pay is so good, why do I consider that work and writing and being a mom not?

My office.

My office.

My best friend sent me an article in defense of stay at home moms.  The reason it’s so good is because the defender is the woman’s husband and he’s defending her to other women.  You can read the full article HERE.  Then, my cousin, who just had her first baby, posted THIS article on FB which is a letter from a SAHM to a working mom and vice versa.  It’s pretty amazing and speaks volumes of truth.

I don’t want to get into a pissing contest of who has it easier or harder – working moms or stay at home ones.  If you’re a mom then you’re working hard, period.  So it is work but why do I have such a hard time defining it as such?  Maybe it’s because I used to own my own business.  The short story is that I opened a personal training and fitness studio in the Fall of 2007, had surprise twins in 2009 (I was planning the pregnancy just not the twins), my aunt watched them while I worked, then she hurt her back in 2012 so badly she was in bed for months and I ultimately had to sell my business because I didn’t want to put my kids in day care for hours on end when they were barely three.

I had a choice but it didn’t really feel like one.  Yes, we’re lucky enough that my husband’s salary can support our family (and my $66 per week!) but I worked very hard at building and maintaining my business and then had to choose between my it and my babies.  Once I sold the business I felt lost for a time.  I was a woman without an identity.  I dreaded the question “How’s your business going?” or, even worse “What do you do?”

Somewhere in the past three years I found my identity.  I figured out it’s not something static, but rather moving and evolving as I am.  I’m glad I don’t have a standard response to the question “What do you do?”  because I could say “What the hell don’t I do?” or “Have you seen my children?”  I dare you to raise them.

"You see Miles, this is how you climb into the fountain.  It's easy."

“You see Miles, this is how you climb into the fountain. It’s easy.”

I’m once again in a position where I have choices and decisions to make.  I’m choosing to be proud of my space here.  Nothing makes my day more then when someone tells me that my blog motivates them or that they love reading it or that they laughed or could identify with something I wrote.  Like Sheryl Crow sang “If it makes you happy, it can’t be that bad.”

I guess the answer to the question “Is it work if you don’t get paid?” is – who gives a shit?  If you take pride in what you do, and are passionate, then the money will come if that’s what’s important to you.  Something I wanted very badly was to be selected to speak as an Ignite Spark at the FitBloggin conference this June in Savannah, GA and I was!  I’m beyond excited and cannot wait to unleash my “spark” on the crowd at my very first blog event.  Am I being paid for that?  Nope. But you better believe there will be a ton of work involved to make it a success and that makes me happy.

What makes you happy? 

How do you feel about working and not getting paid?  SAHM, working mom or neither?

If you had a choice, which would you chose and why?

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  1. Tara Newman

    LOVE it! Who gives a shit! Exactly.And SO WAY proud of you and your speaking opportunity. You are having the most epic year. Great experiences and tons of personal growth…that is PRICELESS.
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    1. vita88

      Thanks so much Tara!! You are absolutely RIGHT.

  2. Angela @ Happy Fit Mama

    What makes me happy is when people (like you!) speak your mind and let it all out! This is awesome! When I was pregnant with my twins, everyone insisted that I wouldn’t go back to work afterwards. But I said NO WAY I’m going back full time. Well I did and I was miserable. I wanted to be home more. Thankfully I was able to go down to part time. I felt guilt from all sides. But then I said – I don’t give a shit! It works for us and that’s all that matters. I’m so over the battles between Moms in general.
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    1. vita88

      Exactly! I would never tell a mom what she should be doing with her kids – it’s an extremely personal choice and ALL moms feel guilt and most moms work their butts off for little or no pay. In the end, does it really matter? Not as long as you’re happy. So glad you made a choice that works for YOU!

  3. Janine Huldie

    Allie, I have had a lot of these same feelings about my blog and being a SAHM. I was a teacher as you know before and the decision pretty much got made for me too, when I lost my position during my second pregnancy due to cuts and the economy. Many times I do shy away from divulging much about my writing and blogging as well and not sure why we short change ourselves like this. I imagine it is because many others don’t know the extent of hard work put into this. I do make some money off my blog and designing online, too, but for most I feel they would look down on this. I had a situation at the girls dance class last year and was treated horribly for posting a picture of a another little girl’s birthday cake on my blog. I never post pics of other people’s kids for privacy issues and such, but a cake sadly got me in trouble. So, I think that incident made me get a bit more nervous about what I post and who I share this with. Sad, but true how others do make us feel about blogging.
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    1. vita88

      Oh Janine – that is awful! That’s exactly what I’m talking about. I wish moms could just support each other more, no matter what. I mean, a cake? Really? I think you’re amazing and I LOVE your blog so keep up the good work! 🙂

  4. Seana Turner

    Let’s put it this way, if you weren’t home doing all you do and not getting paid, then you would be paying someone else to do it. So the value of what you do is high, even if the $$ isn’t exchanging hands. And CONGRATULATIONS, Allie, best of luck as you send out that spark — you will be awesome!
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    1. vita88

      You got that right! It really ends up being six of one or half-dozen of the other.
      Thank you so much!!

  5. Auntie Laurie

    FINALLY!!!! Auntie Carla has been telling Uncle Jim for years, that if he paid her to watch all three of their boys he couldn’t afford her!!!!
    I love that man who stood up for his wife, Matt Walsh, he is so right. I never understood how married couples who want to start a family, have the privelege of having a baby then decide to spend maybe 3-4 hours a day with that child God gave them.
    What people don’t understand these days is that your children grow up so damn fast and you NEVER get those years back…EVER.
    It has been noted that the first 5yrs of a childs life are the MOST important. Yes, being at home is the most difficult but most rewarding job and woman or man will ever have.
    As for being paid, how can you put a price on a childs life????

    1. vita88

      You can’t. It’s that simple. Many moms would probably prefer being at home but don’t have that option, but they work double duty because the “work” never ends for them. As you know, when the boys were babies, everyone tells you how fast it goes and you don’t believe it, but it’s SO true! I have no idea how they can be turning 5 in a few months.
      Thanks Aunt Laurie! Love you!!

  6. Nicole @ Work in Sweats Mama

    Preach on, mama! You’re 100% right – who gives a shit! Here’s the thing. Life is hard. Work is hard, whether you’re pounding the corporate pavement from 7 to 5 (because that’s what’s expected today) or spending every waking minute with your kids. They’re both jobs, and they’re both HARD. They both come with guilt, frustration, and sacrifice. People need to stop rolling their eyes and giving encouragement instead!
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    1. vita88

      I know you get it Nicole! It’s all hard and women need to back each other up more instead of comparing who does what and when. Get over it. 🙂

  7. Karen LeBaron

    I love your blog! I always get a chuckle out of it and can relate in some way. My kids are grown now. I raised them as a single parent. It was very tough at times. I wished I could have stayed at home or worked part time. It is all good now. They are wonderful grown up adults and I’m proud of them. People shouldn’t judge. It’s your life! Keep on blogging! You’re one funny Mama!

    1. vita88

      Thanks Karen! Single moms like you deserve some sort of award. I guess the award is your well-adjusted, grown children but really, that it the toughest EVER. I need at least three other people to help raise my kids and I could never do it alone. My hat is WAY off to you my friend. And THANK YOU for your constant support and love of my blog. It always makes my day! 🙂

  8. AnnMarie

    Besides the owning your own business and teaching fitness classes, I could have written this post. I was a teacher and it brought me great satisfaction when people asked me what I did. I had to leave it when I had Nico. He had a bunch of health issues and like you, I might have had a choice but it didn’t feel like one. I miss it every day. What makes me happy? Writing and traveling. It would make me happy to make money writing. I think about going back to work all the time but Gia is 3 and I can’t bear to leave her. She’s my baby and being with her makes me happy. She looks at the world with innocent eyes and it forces me to do the same. Each of my kids makes me happy in their own way (but the older three are tweens and teens so they are HARD!). Another thing that makes me happy is when people come to me with their problems and I make them feel better. Maybe that’s why I love blogging. I love when people say, “Reading this makes me feel better.” (Oops, sorry for the long comment.)

    1. vita88

      Don’t apologize! It’s fantastic and I can relate – except for the teenager part. All the work I put into my kids or blogging for “free” is the most rewarding. I love what you wrote about seeing the world though your daughter’s eyes. It’s the best, isn’t it?

  9. Nellie @ Brooklyn Active Mama

    Am I missing something you are definitely getting paid for your speaker role in the form of a TICKET! Hello? ($250!!) Anywho, this blog stuff is work. Its real work. It takes time, brainpower, creativity, patience, tech skills. A lot of the things that most people get paid to do. It is definitely work.

    You know how I feel about SAHMs and WAHMs. We all have out ups and downs. Why can’t we just have someone take care of the kids while we sip apple juice by the pool all day?
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    1. vita88

      Ha ha ha!! Yes, I’m getting my “speaker’s ticket” so I guess that’s payment but it’s not like they’re cutting me a check for $250. Can you see how hard I am on myself about this??
      I’m going to try the “sip apple juice by the pool all day” approach this summer and just see what happens!?
      Thanks Nellie!

  10. misszippy

    Congrats on your Ignite gig! That’s so exciting and now I want to go just to hear you.

    I always tell people that I feel I have the best of all worlds. I work from home and do as much/as little as I want. So I’m there for my kids, get some professional fix in, and bring in some pocket change. Blogging fits in there too–it has fulfilled me in ways I never expected. I say we all wear our choices proudly, whatever they may be, and leave the judging for the Olympic figure skating!
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    1. vita88

      You should definitely come to FitBloggin!!! I would love to meet you and by then you’ll be all healed up and we can go for a run together 🙂
      It’s true – we have a lot of worlds revolving and it’s all good. Someday I may even get back into the training aspect and it’s good to have that choice. As for the Olympics? I love the pairs figure skating short program last night! WOW! And of course the snowboarding half-pipe. It’s getting good!

  11. Kristina Walters @ Kris On Fitness

    I totally agree with you. Mom’s do work hard at home or at work. Blogging does make me happy too. My work does not. I haven’t seen the successes as many others have with blogging but I still enjoy putting a little mark in the internet world. Keep doing what you’re doing and everyone will be happy.
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    1. vita88

      That’s a great mantra Kris – just keep doing what you’re doing and everyone will be happy! I’m going to think about that all day. Thanks!

  12. thedoseofreality

    Fantastic post in every way Allie! We feel this way a lot and have this conversation a lot, too! With the amount of time and energy we put in, we are actually making negative amounts of money…but the reward is the community we are building. Right? RIGHT? Seriously, though, I do think that women spend a tremendous amount of time feeling like they have to justify what they are doing or not doing. Sad really.-Ashley
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    1. vita88

      It IS sad and I find myself asking “why?” a lot…so of course I had to blog about it! And absolutely the community is a huge reward!! I love my Dose Peeps!

  13. Hope

    Blogging is WORK! Parenting is WORK! Running is WORK! WORKing out is WORK!. Thank God not everything has a monetary value! The PAY you receive for all you do ALLIE is PRICELESS! and YOU are VALUED more than you know. I agree who cares if you don’t get money, but it’s WORK and you get PAID… just my 2 cents… (you want that cash or check 🙂 )
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    1. vita88

      You are so great Hope! Absolutely, 100% agree with you and you put it perfectly as well. I think I should pay YOU!

  14. FitBritt@MyOwnBalance

    This is such a great post for so many reasons. I think your first question is the hardest: What makes you happy. Does my work make me happy? It’s ok but it’s not my passion. Does making money make me happy? Hells yeah. Does blogging make me happy? Yes but sometimes it overwhelms the heck out of me. It’s a struggle to find the nirvana in everything.

    As for blogging as work. I consider it my work. Not because I get paid lots of money to do it but because I consider it a stepping stone in my career journey. I don’t know where it will lead me but I’m confident that it is part of my career in some way. I hate the eyeroll from people. My “friend” gave me a really hard time when I told her I was not available on weeknights anymore because I blog in the evenings. I treat it like my job because it is my job. No one is going to hand me my dreams and I have to start somewhere. I also hate it when my family chimes in with “helpful” suggestions on how to make money off my blog. There is a perception in society that if you are not making a lot of money from it then it is not worth your time. I don’t think anyone said to Mark Zuckerberg when he was in college- hey you aren’t making money from that Facebook idea, why don’t you quit and go back to studying at Harvard so you can be a doctor or a lawyer or whatever. I don’t know, maybe they did but the point was that he didn’t listen.

    As for the SAHM debate, I agree with you that mothers work hard period. I have no idea how working mothers manage it all (I can barely keep my sh*t together). And I have no idea how SAHM are able to juggle so much and stay sane.

    O.k obviously this post touched a nerve with me in a good way! Haha! 🙂
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    1. vita88

      Thank you for all that you wrote. It’s SO true! I hate the “this is how you can make money blogging” suggestions. Maybe I don’t want to do what it takes to make money from it right now. I enjoy the writing and the connecting and the inspiring part of it. I agree that it’s a stepping stone but I get caught up in the fact that Mark Zuckerberg was a college student and I’m a 38 year-old woman with two kids. Either way though, I agree with what you wrote and I can relate to your struggle. As for your friend – you’re right to put that in quotes! As you know, I LOVE your blog and I can see how much work and passion you put into it. Keep doing it Britt and it will lead you wherever you want it to!

    2. Joi @ Rx Fitness Lady

      I identify with you on the blogging being a stepping stone!
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      1. vita88

        I know you do! You’re headed for BIG things on the inter webs my friend!!

  15. FitBritt@MyOwnBalance

    Oh!!! I forgot to also say CONGRATS on being selected as an Ignite speaker!!!!!!! 🙂
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    1. vita88

      Ha ha – THANKS!!!

  16. Kate

    $66 would be used for my tank- boo!

    I’m not a mom but I do think it’s a job- working or SAH. I mean, as long as you’re not sitting on the couch eating bon bons and having someone else raise your kid, you’re working.

    Congrats on the honor too! Woohoo!
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    1. vita88

      Thanks Kate!! I wish I could just sit on the couch, with or without a snack 🙂

  17. Michelle

    Oh no! I lost my connection and my comment!! Ugh. I consider my blog work. I have goals and an end game. But most of my family and real life friends don’t see it that way. One friend that asked me about it the other day, I explained how you have to have a certain amount of page views to be considered for a lot of sponsored stuff, and that I was finally feeling more comfortable about where I was at. She said “well, is it really worth it?” Talk about taking the wind out of my sails! I don’t think she meant to make me feel that way, but I am not going to change the way people think. Nor do I plan to change my own way of thinking. So that’s where I’m at. It’s work and I am sticking with that!
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    1. vita88

      Agreed Michelle!!! I’m sure she didn’t mean it either, most people just don’t get it.

  18. NJ @ A Cookie Before Dinner

    I also consider my blog to be work. I sat down with a notebook and a pen this summer before Lola was born and dreamed big dreams for my space. I don’t care if I ever make a dime off of my blog, it will still be worth the effort I put into it.

    There are very few blogs that start one day and explode the next. And if they do, it is likely because they hit the right niche at the right time or had a post go viral.

    Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither will my blog be!

    Congratulations on the speaking position! I know you’ll rock it!
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    1. vita88

      So true and I couldn’t agree more. Thank you so much!

  19. Tamara

    Yay for your speaking position! That’s amazing.
    “And this: I’m glad I don’t have a standard response to the question “What do you do?” because I could say “What the hell don’t I do?” or “Have you seen my children?” I dare you to raise them.”

    CRACKED ME UP.

    My husband was also quick to inform me that my “work” is only a hobby if I’m not making money. I nearly gave him an uppercut. However through time and gentler conversations, we came to an agreement that I do have the ability to make money on both writing and/or photography, and with those abilities, why wouldn’t I at least go for it a little? So I did and now we have a new bed and a Disney trip under our belt. However, I still have a LOT of work to do. A lot. And his salary sadly cannot support us on the lives we want.
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    1. vita88

      I’m so glad I could give you a laugh!!
      I’ve had similar conversations with Mike. He also thinks my running is a “hobby” and now we’re all going to Spain. I love it when I’m right 🙂

  20. Dana

    Congrats on your speaking gig – you’re going to be great! I consider my blog work in that I want it to grow and do well and be read. I am fortunate to be able to do it without the pressure of making money, but why should it only be “legitimate” if it makes money? It makes me happy, it challenges me, and it has helped me grow. And THAT makes me a better mother.
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    1. vita88

      I couldn’t have said it better myself. My goal was never to make money – I’ll take it but that’s not why I’m out here. This space also makes me a better mother and I’m all for anything that helps there!!
      Thanks Dana!

  21. Tina

    My only thought is that you may not get paid for your work, no matter how much you love or are passionate about it. Showbusiness is a definite example. However, if your priorities become in line with what you love to do, then who gives a shit if you ever make money? You love to live and not collect.

    1. vita88

      Agreed!! I never made a lot of money with my personal training studio but it was my dream and my passion. There are far more important things. Thanks Tina!

  22. Sarah C.

    You go girl!
    I am a SAHM of three, I homeschool my children, and work part-time. I have never been busier in my life! I have struggled with my contribution and “value”, with that said I wouldn’t change the choices I have made and that makes me happy.
    Keep inspiring, Allie!

    1. vita88

      Thank you so much Sarah! It’s definitely a busy life and I can’t imagine having three. Keep working it girl!! 🙂

  23. Kim

    First – your blog always motivates, inspires and makes me happy!!!
    And, I’m like you – I rarely talk about having to work on my blog around the people I know – they think it’s odd that I spend time reading and commenting on other blogs.
    YES – things can be work even when you don’t get paid. I work my ass off over at our new business and because it is new and we haven’t made a profit yet, I don’t get paid!!!
    Plus, don’t get me started on how all the work that we do as moms (whether we work outside of the home or not)!!! I know that we get “paid” in non-monetary ways but it is definitely WORK!!!
    So excited that you are talking at FitBloggin’ – pretty sure I can’t go this year but I would love to!
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    1. vita88

      You hit the nail on the head on every point!! I get odd looks from friends sometimes when I start a lot of conversations with “this friend I have who blogs,” because they don’t get how we can be friends. Oh well.
      I so wish you could come to FitBloggin! We need to meet one of these days.
      And, owning your own business is so hard – so much work for so little money, especially in the early years. But, you clearly love it and it’s a beautiful space that I’m sure will continue to make you happy and turn a profit!

  24. Alison

    Congratulations on the speaking gig!!!

    Confession: when people say to me, “So, you’re a full-time mom?” – I cringe. Because whether you work outside the home or not (I am the latter), being a mom IS full-time. Whether you’re with the children or not, your mind as a Mom doesn’t really switch off. So, yes I do think being a Mom is work. It’s hard, not always pretty, unpaid in the traditional sense, and it’s glorious, joyful, privileged work.
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    1. vita88

      Thanks Alison!
      I know that cringe feeling but you’re absolutely right on all counts. I especially like that you said “privileged.” Yes, we are.

  25. Jen@milesandblessings

    Great post!!!! I feel like I can really relate to this, as I am sure a lot of mom’s can! Not only am I a SAHM…I also home school my two girls. I feel like whenever I say this I get “the looks”. It used to bother me….I would pretend like it didn’t, but it did. I have come to a place where it really doesn’t bother me anymore….I am doing what my husband and I think is best for us and our girls and that is what matters. That said…I really feel like to each his own :). For some women working outside the home is what works for them and for others staying home is what works for them. I think it is super important to realize that it is not the money that brings happiness. I know some people who make boat loads of money are are super unhappy and people who in the world’s eyes make very little but are very happy! In the end….lets just do what works for us and not judge others :)!
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    1. vita88

      Agreed Jen!
      I used to pretend that some looks didn’t bother me as well so I’m glad you wrote that. I also know people make a lot more money then most but their family lives are miserable. I’m all for “to each his own” and let’s all just get along.

  26. Christine @ Love, Life, Surf

    Allie!! Congratulations!!! You are going to be amazing. I love this post, especially your ultimate answer to the question. And yes, I had a choice in many of my career decisions but they often didn’t feel like a choice to me either. It was usually something that I fell into and happened to be good at. My husband often reminds me that my “work” doesn’t pay me any money but we decided that I would try to give it a go if this was something that I really enjoyed.
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    1. vita88

      Thank you so much Christine!
      I’m so glad you do what you do because so many people love your words and are motivated by your spirit! Keep doing what you’re doing 🙂

  27. Joi @ Rx Fitness Lady

    EXCELLENT thoughts Allie! There’s so many rewards (different forms of payments) from non paying things like blogging, SAHM, & even the $22/gig (ha, same as here…that’s good to know I guess, lol). You just rattled them off and same applies for teaching classes. The benefits from helping shape lives wether fitness, blogging, or rearing your children are priceless. I will actually cuss a MOFO out if they even look like they want to snub my blogging efforts. I wonder what would happen if someone popped off wrong about me being a SAHM….hum….

    Anywho, Fitbloggin is going to be BANANAS!!!! Congratulations, I’ll be there to support. I’m so excited!
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    1. vita88

      Thanks so much Joi!!! I know you can completely understand when it comes to fitness classes – SO many rewards – and a lot of the people who come to sweat with you end up being a lot more then clients or participants. I feel lucky to be able to do what I do, including being a SAHM. Don’t worry – I’ve given plenty of lip about my blogging efforts and, most of the time, the haters have never even read it!
      Can’t wait for our big meet-up at FitBloggin!!!

  28. Stephanie

    You’ve hit the nail on the head with this post. There is so much to everything we do and if we pick it apart or value it only through the money we make – we wouldn’t have any self worth at all. Doing something because you love it is reason enough – how many amazing success stories, businesses, dreams come true stories have we read about that started because of a passion. So many. And there is a reason for that. Congrats on being chosen for the conference – I’m sure it’s your first step of many more to come. Good luck!
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    1. vita88

      Thank you so much Stephanie! You’re so right about all the success stories born from pure passion. After all, how can you be successful when you’re not passionate about what you’re doing? It just doesn’t work like that and I love a good success story!

  29. Karen @ Baking In A Tornado

    I love ” If you’re a mom then you’re working hard, period.” That really sums it up.

    As far as the blog and writing goes, anything you put your time and effort into should make you proud. Money and even free merchandise isn’t the only form of payment. Building a blog and a following from nothing is an accomplishment and feeling good about what you’ve done here is (I hope) a reward.
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    1. vita88

      It absolutely is Karen! There’s lots of things I do that I don’t get paid for, but most of them are far more rewarding then the stuff I do.

  30. Marnie @ SuperSmartMama

    I love that you put this out there. I am straddling the divide right now between SAHM and going back to work or finding an opportunity that will let me work from home (which is what I did up until last November). I also won’t dare tell anyone I keep a blog because I know a majority of them (who do not read blogs) would not understand why I invest so much time into something that seemingly does not have financial payback. How do we explain to these non-sympathizers that there is something beautiful about finding a community of like-minded strong women who share the same hobbies and goals (keep fit, being good moms, etc.)? I guess it’s just one of those situations where you have to be in it to understand it. You’ve got a beautiful blog. Keep on posting.

    1. vita88

      Thank you! I so appreciate it.
      I completely agree that it’s one of “those” situations. Kind of like how I had no clue what being a mom would be like…and then I had twins. Yikes!!

  31. GiGi Eats Celebrities

    The past three years of my life have been UNPAID pretty much. I work gig to gig…. It’s not exactly the best way to live, but it’s actually pretty exciting and keeps me on my toes. The industry I work it – Entertainment – is pretty FICKLE so I have to just take what I can get. I can happily report though that over the past, lets say, 10 months, significant things have happened to me and my professional life and this year has been PHENOMENAL!!!

    As for blogging, I do it because I ADORE IT! I seriously wake up in the morning because I want to get on line and visit blogs, do my own blog, etc!!!!!! 🙂 You only do things for free if you REALLY TRULY LOVE THEM – right?!
    GiGi Eats Celebrities recently posted…You’ll Frittata Over This Heart-y Dish!My Profile

    1. vita88

      YES GiGi – that is absolutely right! It’s 5:30am where I am right now and there’s nothing I’d rather be doing then working on my blog!!
      I love that some major things are finally beginning to click for you and that I get to reap the benefits of all that is GiGi Eats Celebrities 🙂

  32. Savvy Working Gal

    Some of the most important work is unpaid work – volunteer work. I admire you for all you’ve accomplished this year. My blog is a tool to help me grow as well. And I make almost nothing from it. Great post
    Savvy Working Gal recently posted…Financially Savvy SaturdayMy Profile

    1. vita88

      So true! Thank you!!

  33. Rachel G

    I’m convinced that life involves a lot of work that doesn’t bring in paychecks–but that doesn’t make it any less real, or any less work! My husband is the primary wage earner in our family, and we’re completely happy that way. I’m glad that he doesn’t ever make me feel any less just because I don’t earn near as much as he does! Money isn’t the end goal in life, anyway, is it? It’s just something that’s rather necessary…still, not the ultimate goal!
    Rachel G recently posted…Love RememberedMy Profile

    1. vita88

      YES! That’s exactly how I feel…and my husband is VERY supportive – I just like to tease him 🙂 Thank you for your comment!

  34. Andrea

    Hell yeah it’s work! I work outside of the home and still I’m looking for a paycheck for all of these meals I’ve cooked and noses I’ve wiped. I feel like I’m getting stiffed here! It’s work!
    Andrea recently posted…Jordan Davis. Trayvon Martin. You. Me. Your Son. My Nephew.My Profile

    1. vita88

      There’s not enough money in the world!! Keep up the good work mama!

  35. Sue @This Mama Runs For Cupcakes

    For the most part i’m a SAHM, but i do work one days per week. Being a SAHM is the way harder then going to work and taking care of sick kids by far. Definitely underpaid (monetarily of course). I love my boys and I love that I get to spend the time with them that I do, but sometimes I do wish I worked more. My boys are super challenging and sometimes its hard to find the patience. I know someday I will look back on this and cherish the time I get to spend with them!
    Sue @This Mama Runs For Cupcakes recently posted…Mama Cupcake’s 12 Days of Super Swag–Day 1 Sweaty Bands and Honey Stinger Giveaway!My Profile

    1. vita88

      Exactly! My boys are super challenging but I think I’ve finally found a good balance of “work” and “mommying” but it’s always changing. Thanks Sue.

  36. Leslie

    I’d definitely call everything you described as work: staying home with kids, teaching others how to stay fit, and operating a blog. Like you, I brush off my blog and most of my friends and family don’t really know anything about it. But it’s a significant undertaking and a work of love…just like your business must have been. Congrats on the speaking engagements…it looks like bright new things are on the horizon for you!
    Leslie recently posted…Snow Days and a Valentine HazeMy Profile

    1. vita88

      Thank you so much! Sounds like you can relate…

  37. kristin miller

    I have been a work horse lady forever, and I will be entering a new role as a SAHM soon! Thanks for posting!
    kristin miller recently posted…Pregnant Runner Thoughts IIIMy Profile

    1. vita88

      You are going to love SAHM-hood with your new baby boy!!! Enjoy every moment b/c it really is true that is FLIES by!

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